Libertarian pinup-boy Adam Kokesh (pictured above) posted this comment on the Freedom Feens Facebook page a couple of weeks ago, I just noticed it last night:
Here’s the backstory:
Adam posted the below video where he answered a letter from a man asking him “Can I be a sexual dominant and still be a libertarian?” Adam answered with such misguided, wrong and bigoted things that I wrote him a e-mail about it. In it it I told him “people who know nothing about lifestyle-BDSM and offer opinions about it remind me of people who know nothing about guns and offer opinions of guns.” I also offered Adam some suggested reading to expand his knowledge.
Adam never replied to my e-mail. If I’d been a female, he may have written back. I do know he often replies to women immediately. I did get an auto-responder e-mail that looked like it came from a corporation or a politician, some “Your thoughts are very important to us, and we’ll try to get back to you”:
I don’t get a chance to respond to every email that I get, but I dotry to read all of them and at least always skim them daily. Pleaseknow that I am doing my best to hear my audience, and appreciate allthe feedback.In liberty, Adam Kokesh
He never wrote back, so I figured he didn’t want to talk to me. I posted on my personal Facebook account to discuss it with my friends:
My personal Facebook account is “friends only”, and Adam and I have never added each other as Facebook “friends”, so he couldn’t see it. I’m assuming some mutual Facebook friend of ours told him about it. I wasn’t trying to hide it from him. I wasn’t doing anything different than when he or I or anyone criticizes some public figure but doesn’t add them as a Facebook friend.
The thread went on for a while longer than that, with a bunch of people posting similar comments. I did go on to call him “the frat boy of liberty”, but that’s it.
Many people regularly bash him way harder on the comment sections of his videos and he usually ignores it. I must have said something that hit home.
I like some of Adam’s stuff, particularly his video where he talks to the Marines guarding The Federal Reserve. I think overall he’s good for liberty, I just think he should stick to what he knows. And also avoid doing insipid crap like this. It’s infantile, and DOES make him come off as a frat boy. He can and has done so much better.
He should also quit being so fatist. He’s turning off potential fans, and possibly turning people off from liberty. His bashing of anyone who isn’t sculpted and ripped is part of why I called him “the frat boy of liberty.” And his responding to me with “Go fuck yourself” just reinforces that belief.
The FIRST THING he usually says about some bad cop is about the cop’s weight, not the cop’s ethics. I wonder if Adam was fat as a kid, or maybe a fat bully sat on him in the school yard.
Back to the BDSM thing, I hate when people give confident WRONG advice to people who look up to them. It’s dangerous. People who are smart, like Adam, often fall into this trap. They know so much about one area that they start to think they can answer any question about anything. And it especially bugs me when it’s about BDSM, which is greatly misunderstood. BDSM is treated today about like homosexuality was in the 1950s, and Adam prolonged a bunch of those wrong myths in his response to that man. If he’d done the same thing to a gay man, his audience would be gone, overnight.
I took Stefan Molyneux to task for this same stuff, 58 minutes into this interview, and he actually went and did some research by reading books I suggested, and he changed his tune, as you can hear 13:24 to 13:30 into this interview.
If Adam has the capacity to be that teachable, here’s the reading list I sent Stefan:
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction (Kindle Edition)
Jay Wiseman. Greenery Press, 1998.
The Loving Dominant (Kindle Edition)
John Warren, Ph.d. Greenery Press, 2000.
Diary of an S&M Romance (Paperback)
Dollie Llama and ThornDaddy (My wife and I).
PEEP! Press, 2006.
This book is our own personal journey. Included on our list not just because we wrote it, but because the book is respected in “the community.”
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities (Paperback)
Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt. Greenery Press, 1998
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism (Paperback)
Philip Miller, Molly Devon. Mystic Rose Books, 1988.
When Someone You Love Is Kinky (Kindle Edition)
Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt. Greenery Press, 2000.
I hope Adam gives some of this list a read. Because the day you stop being teachable is the day you become old. And we need Adam young and vibrant.
I never tried to cut Adam out of any conversation. And I’m inviting him to respond here. I’ll send him an e-mail with this link. And since he doesn’t seem to read my e-mails, I’m sure whoever told him about my conversation on my Facebook wall can tell him about this blog post. And this blog is not “friends only.” It’s open to all.
And to Adam, and anyone: everyone’s first comment here is held for moderation, so don’t think I’m blocking you if you reply and don’t see it post immediately. I’ll approve it when I see it and we can continue here if you have comments. And I check this daily, not once or twice a month like the Freedom Feens Facebook page.
–Michael W. Dean